I DECIDE
You didn't lose yourself. You were trained to shrink.
Here's how to stop. The Good Girl Handbook conditioned us to make ourselves smaller and more available to everyone except ourselves. It's time to put down the rulebook and pick up the only two words that were ever actually yours.
The Good Girl Handbook
Every woman got the same handbook. Nobody handed it to her on purpose.
It arrived in a lunch line, in a mother's tired sigh, in a magazine cover, in 'calm down' and 'you're so easy to get along with.' Rule by rule, without a single villain in the room, we are trained from childhood to shrink - to make ourselves smaller, quieter, more agreeable, and more available to everyone except ourselves.
This conditioning doesn't require a bonfire to destroy. It just requires a pattern interrupt. Two words, said quietly to yourself, right before everything starts to change:
I Decide.
Meet the Books Characters
Three women, three unglamorous moments, and one shared realization.
Sara
"I trained the man who took the promotion I was promised. I smiled, shook his hand, and went back to my desk to do both of our jobs."
Keisha
"I am the one everyone calls when things fall apart. I perform capability so flawlessly that no one realizes I am disappearing inside of it."
Trish
"Thirty years of marriage ended in the time it took to a door to close. The silence changed me. I fell apart alone, on my closet floor, holding my old dance shoes and grieving a woman I hadn't seen in years."
I Decide
CHAPTER 1
Opening Excerpt
Get a taste of the raw, direct opening that sets the tone for the rest of the book. No sugar-coating, just the truth about the invisible rules we've all been playing by. See where the unlearning begins.
It started with a bra strap. The one she'd just gotten. The one that still felt foreign and a little embarrassing and very much hers, right up until a boy snapped it in the lunch line and his friends laughed and an adult standing right there smiled and told her he just liked her. That's how boys show it, honey.
Nobody handed her a rulebook that day. They didn't have to. It had already been written for her, in her mother's tired sighs, in every magazine cover, in every "you're so easy to get along with" she'd quietly collected without asking for a single one of them.
That's how the shrinking starts. Not with fire and brimstone. With a thousand small adjustments, made so early and so often that one day she'll look at her own life and wonder who she's actually performing it for. The Good Girl Handbook had been running her decisions for decades, and she never even knew she was following someone elses rule book.
The Authors
Ginni Ratcliff
Behavior Specialist
Ginni Ratcliff works with the patients most of the world has given up on. As a Behavior Specialist, she spends her days with individuals facing dual diagnoses, many of whom arrive mandated, at the absolute bottom, with nowhere else left to go. If you wake up and Ginni is the one sitting across from you, it means you've hit rock bottom. It also means you're finally in the hands of someone who isn't going anywhere.
Earlier in her career, Ginni worked directly with troubled teens. The behavioral programs she designed reshaped how entire facilities approached adolescent care, and they're still in use today, still changing outcomes for kids everyone else had written off. That same refusal to give up on a person carried her into the hardest work in the field: meeting adults in their most broken moments and treating them like people worth fighting for, not cases to be managed.
Ginni earned her BA in Psychology from Arkansas Tech University. Her real education has come from thousands of hours in rooms most people would never choose to enter. That conviction, that no one is beyond reaching, is what she brought to I Decide, grounding the book's behavioral insights in decades of real, hard-won clinical work.
Off the clock, Ginni is exactly who you'd hope she'd be: a devoted dog person, a DeadHead who still chases the music, and someone happiest with a passport in hand. She may work with the patients everyone else walked away from, but she's the friend everyone should be lucky enough to have.
Amy Honey
NCI Certified Behavior Profiler
Amy Honey has spent her career decoding what makes people say yes, and teaching others to do it ethically. As an international speaker and trainer, she covers customer engagement, body language, behavior modification, and habit transformation, all rooted in neuroscience, human behavior, and psychology. She's a Certified Behavior Profiler and the "power-house closer" her peers call her for a reason: her work is personally responsible for roughly six million dollars a year in product sales across live events and online, for clients who trust her with the moments that matter most.
Before sales and speaking, Amy was a professional stunt actress, and she brings that same fearlessness to everything she does now. She's a social media influencer in the youthful aging space, unafraid to get down and boogie on TikTok, and she hosts two podcasts: The Authors Tea, live on Amazon, and Escape the Toxic Mindfield. She also holds numerous health and fitness certifications, because for Amy, transformation isn't just a talking point, it's a lifestyle.
At the center of all of it is one throughline: Amy believes ethical sales and human behavior, taught well, can change lives. That belief, and her refusal to take herself too seriously while she does it, is what she brought to I Decide. She's an authentic risk-taker with a great sense of humor, and she's spent her career proving that real influence starts with genuinely understanding people, not manipulating them.
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Put Down The Rulebook
The conditioning stops here. It doesn't require a bonfire or a breakdown—just a quiet pattern interrupt. Start your journey today and pick up the only two words that were ever actually yours to begin with.
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